What to do now...It happens again and again!!?

if someone says that they want to take to to heal their wounds before they just back in a relationship with u what do you do..Should you avoid them util they initiate things..What if u have a child together, should you not spend time all together.. Should i just let him come get his son till he decides what he wants.. How long should i even bother waiting around.. He wants time but when i start to pushing away and he notices here he comes wanting to b friends.. and he considers us talking to be a second chance..What do i do..I dont want to hurt myself in the long run. Im hurt and confused because e have this beautiful baby together and i want it to work...but i dont feel that he truly cosiders my feelings. Why is it so hard to move on..Why does he try to get closer when i start to drift away from him..I this love or is this something else.